1Active listening
I listen to understand, not to reply. I'll reflect back what I hear and check I've got it right, so you never feel lost or talked over.
My approach
A conversation, not an examination.
Working together is a collaboration between two people. I bring my training and experience; you bring the most important knowledge of all: about your own life.
How I work
Seven things that guide every session
2Empathy & understanding
Whatever you're feeling makes sense in the context of your life. My aim is to understand your experience from the inside, as you live it.
3Respect for difference
No two people are alike. I won't apply a one-size-fits-all model to you. We'll find what fits your life, your values and your goals.
4Cultural & religious sensitivity
Your culture and faith may be a source of strength, of questions, or both. They're welcome in the room, and I'll never ask you to set them aside. If I don't know something about your background, I'll ask, not assume.
5A non-judgmental space
You can say the things you've never said out loud. Nothing you share will change the respect I have for you.
6Working together
We decide together what to focus on and how. I'll explain what I suggest and why, and you're always free to say "that doesn't fit for me."
7Your pace, your boundaries
You choose what to share and when. We can slow down, pause or change direction whenever you need to.
What a session looks like
Each session lasts 50 minutes and takes place online via Zoom, or in person in Amsterdam.
In our first session, we'll simply get to know each other. You can tell me a little about what brings you here, as much or as little as feels right, and ask me any questions you have. Towards the end, we'll talk about whether you'd like to continue, and what might help.
You can book a single conversation whenever you need one. If you'd like to keep talking, we'll find a rhythm that works for you, whether that's weekly, every other week, or just when life needs a bit of untangling.
A note on visiting this website
Reading these pages doesn't mean anything is "wrong" with you, and nothing here is meant to diagnose or label you. Many people come simply to understand themselves better, or to have one place where they can think out loud.
Take the first step, in your own time.
When you're ready, you can book a session in a few clicks. If you have questions first, the FAQ may help.